I was struck today by something that seemed inherently unfair, and I was reminded of an old saying, “all’s fair in love and war.”
Consider this: you and your husband have been having a difficult time in your relationship. You are writing about it in your diary, a place where you have kept your deepest darkest secrets since you were a teenager. Surely, your diary is private and no one would read it? Right? And if they did, it would be wrong wouldn’t it? They certainly couldn’t use it against you because its private, and you never intended that anyone would read it, right? Sadly, the answer is: not necessarily, in fact, in many instances, your diary entries can be used against you when you are involved in family law proceedings.
Mathews v. Mathews, 2007 BCSC 1825 considered this issue in deciding whether the wife’s diary could be used as evidence to determine her intentions in seeking her husband’s permission to relocate from Australia to Canada. The court found that the entries had probative value in that they were relevant to a determination of her intent. They were found not to be prejudicial to the wife because their origin could be determined, a complete diary could be produced to give context to the entries, and they had not been manipulated. The evidence was not prejudicial to the process, the court said, because it was possible that the parties could copy and read the diary, the cost was not prohibitive to the process. In a minor concession to the wife the court held that it did not approve of the invasion of the wife’s privacy, however, the finding was that it was not an illegal act (such as an illegal tape recording) and it was done in the husbands emotional state whilst he felt his relationship was about to break apart.
In the end result the diaries were admitted into evidence with the court finding that the reputation of the administration of justice would suffer more if the entries were excluded.
In matrimonial law, nothing is sacred. Take your teenage diaries, give them a final read and toss them in the woodstove if you have any doubts.
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