I had contemplated (and really did plan on) tackling the ins and outs of the pending new Supreme Court Rules dealing with oral examinations, but on this Christmas Eve Day, the topic just doesn’t feel ‘topical’. Instead I came across an article from yesterday’s Edmonton Journal with the headline, “Family court crowded at Christmas: Parents look to sort out holiday schedules,” that had resonance. As Alexandra Zabjek writes, “It is an annual rush. Every year, family courts experience a surge of cases in the days leading up to the holidays.” I know that unfortunate story. As a family law paralegal, what I often fear about the Christmas Season is facing that ‘annual rush’, the possibility of moms and dads trying to secure Christmas access. Despite the outcomes of such disputes, feelings of disappointment, guilt and loss are felt inevitably by parents and children alike. The old adage that “no one wins” seems never so true.
Whether we spend more or less than last year on gifts for family and friends is less significant than the expectation that the holiday season will bring family and friends closer together. We have been inculcated with the message that Christmas is all about peace, happiness and love. Sadly, that expectation creates heightened challenges and distress for the separated or divorced family, especially if arrangements for access over the holidays were not made well in advance. Even when parents have an existing access agreement or order in place, that is no guarantee disputes between them will not materialize, perhaps because the children themselves would rather spend Christmas Day with the ‘other parent’.
I have hope that this holiday season will be a quiet one – so far so good. If I could make it so for everyone, of course I most certainly would.
So should I close off by wishing all of you a Happy, Peaceful Holiday Season? Sure, I just can’t help myself!